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Monday, February 25, 2002

I made a haiku. It was inspired by this man, whom I've never met.

I really like boobs.
Though I have some of my own,
I play with others.

babbled by Kat @ 3:20:00 AM | |

Wednesday, February 20, 2002

Fucking hell. I can't believe it's been almost a month since the last time I updated here. I certainly am one lazy mofo. I think that I'll spare myself the good ass-kicking that I so plainly deserve and just get on with the writing, already.

One of the major subjects that I've been thinking about recently is dating. One of the reasons I've been thinking about it so much is due to my horrendous track record with it. Don't get me wrong, I've had several relatively successful long-term relationships. However, in the year and a half since the last one ended, I've been rather unlucky in my romantic choices. I tend to get crushes on people that I can't have for some sort of practical reason, or if I can have them, they are either insane or emotionally immature, or some spectacularly unbalanced combination of the two.

Now, you may be thinking, "How on earth could an intelligent, attractive, successful young lady such as this Kat from Dirtyfez have such bad luck with the lovin'?" I don't know! Perhaps I am cursed. Why else would I get crushes on gay men and straight women? It's unfortunate, but true. But that's not the least of my problems. My major problem with dating is the thing that quite possibly plagues most of the single people who are in the dating pool right now - the bullshit that is the dating process itself.

The processs of getting to know someone is nearly impossible in the artificial social environment created by dating. When people first start dating, they both put their best face forward. They tend to minimize or hide any attributes of their personality or physicality that they think might be perceived as a flaw by the other person. By the time that the new couple sleeps together and starts to develop an intimate physical bond, they each have an idealized view of the other person based on the artificial perceptions that they obtained during the initial dating phase. Little by little, the two people start to relax and feel comfortable around one another, and eventually those little quirks that they were concealing come to the surface. This can cause a myriad of problems, because each person will see "new" behaviors in the other that conflict with their idealized view of their partner. In many relationships, the conflict between the idealized view of the partner and the actual personality and behaviors of said partner can cause so much strife that it precipitates the demise of the relationship. In relationships that do not dissolve due to this conflict, there will almost always be some discord created by the difference between the idealized partner and the "real" partner.

All of these problems and issues could be minimized if people would just stop putting on airs and pretending to be something they're not when they are meeting potential dates. If people could just abandon their societal conditioning and behave as if they were hanging out at home with their friends when they're out on the prowl or on a first date with someone new, we could usher in a whole new era of dating. So I say to you single people out there, be yourselves! Don't wear a tie on a first date if you don't normally wear one. Hell, wear your old sweat pants and a wife-beater! Scratch yourself at the dinner table! Belch! Fart! Make fun of old people! Kick puppies! (Ok, maybe kicking puppies is extreme. Kick, um, pigeons instead.) Power to the single people! As the wise man Mork from Ork once said, "Fly, be free!"

babbled by Kat @ 3:40:00 AM | |